I read something the other day about the importance of travel. The article was encouraging people to travel more, to work hard, make things happen, because you only live once. It emphasized that you needed to live life to the fullest.
I used to believe that; but that was before I lost Norman.
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The Importance Of Travel And How To Live Life To The Fullest
We had a great life, we went on fabulous holidays, our lives were very full. After all, I’ve traveled my whole life. I have a travel blog, travel agency, and an Instagram dedicated to wanderlust (follow us on Instagram here). Travel was very important to me.
But now, having lost Norman, the saying “you only live once” takes new meaning. It is true that life is valuable and even ephemeral, but having lived alongside someone for his last year, I’ve gained new insight.
I know he didn’t die wishing he had visited the Eiffel Tower or been to certain places. He wished for more time, he wished that he would see his children grow, he wished he could help others more. Also, he wished he could help others see the amazing preciousness of life.
I mean, if you have a trust fund or developed some amazing piece of technology, why not quit your job and travel the world? But I am talking about folks like us; you and me. Normal families where life is full and busy, and invariably there is plenty of work.
In our case, in between holidays we worked hard. We buckled down, we got things done, we made money. We completely believed in the importance of travel. Now, I don’t believe that dreaming big, and working hard for travel is as valuable as I used to. It cost us precious time to earn that money to take those trips.
Sometimes we “lived for the weekend”or we “lived for the holidays” – we didn’t value the routine and even the mundane enough. We didn’t value the preciousness of each and every day, where-ever we were. We were busy creating an amazing dream life and that took us away from savouring the moments.
Life isn’t about the grand gestures and the huge trips and the stamps on the passport. You are exactly right. And traveling doesn’t mean we lived more or less. People undervalue the small things. It’s not until something huge happens and rocks our world that we notice that. @lifesatripp4me
Norman’s last year taught us a mindful, connected, loving life is what is important. It means to value the people and places around you every moment, of every day.
I don’t wish we had taken more trips or travel together. I even wish we had not worked so hard to make those trips. Yes, they were glorious, but they came at a cost.
I wish we’d spent more time laying in bed, listening to the rain on the roof on a cold winter’s day. I wish that I could watch another episode with Norman of the Familia P.Luche, that ridiculous Mexican sitcom. I’d sit Googling flight deals in preference to watching it with him.
No, you don’t have to love your partner’s favorite show, but when they are not here anymore you realize that you actually did enjoy it.
We are currently trying to make our daily life great because we feel stuck in the routine. Living from holiday to holiday and doing nothing with the time between. And to be honest the most time for us is the “time between”. So our goal is to find the balance and appreciate the daily life. @vronalpau
I wish that when he came home from work, I took my hands out of the dishwater, or stopped folding the washing, or stopped stirring the food… to give him a giant bear hug and a smacking kiss on the lips. Every SINGLE time.
So – dream big, and work hard, but don’t let it get in the way of living a mindful, connected life.
Two books that I’ve ordered from the library follow. I can’t recommend them but I’m hoping they will be helpful to understand what I am going through.
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[easyazon_link identifier=”1592408419″ locale=”US” tag=”world06006-20″]Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown[/easyazon_link]
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I recently encountered another family who’ve been through a cancer journey sharing their thoughts here. Please take a look.
Personal note: If you follow my instagram you will know that soon after Norman died I posted about having “no regrets.” With time, I think that perspective is changing a little bit. And that is Ok, it is my journey. Ariana XXX
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